Overcoming Feelings of Loneliness When You Write

Overcoming Feelings of Loneliness When You Write

August 25, 2014

Editor’s Note: the following post was originally published in 2011. New posts on the C2C will return on September 15, 2014. “… And so may a slow wind work these words of love around you, an invisible cloak to mind your life.”  – From Beannacht by John O’Donohue John O’ Donahue, the late Irish poet and philosopher, once told the story of when he was studying in Germany and was incredibly homesick. Throughout his stay, O’ Donahue tried his best to avoid his feelings of homesickness by making himself as busy as possible. Then, one day, he got the flu. Having no other choice but to rest, O’Donohue walked into his room and decided to confront the feelings of loneliness he was running away from ever since he arrived. He locked his door, sat in a chair, and told loneliness directly: “Do your best.” Then, O’ Donahue felt what he described as a “wave of held back forsakenness” that he had been repressing […]

How To Get Your Family To Support Your Passion

How To Get Your Family To Support Your Passion

August 18, 2014

Editor’s Note: the following post was originally published in 2011. New posts on the C2C will return on September 15, 2014. “Ollin, I love my family, but they just don’t seem to respect/understand/support my passion. Can you help?” “Ollin, I love my family, but they just don’t seem to respect/understand/support my writing schedule. Help, please!” After I graduated from college, I wanted to celebrate. So, I decided to go traveling. Now, I had never been outside of the country before (other than Mexico—but as a certified Chicano I’m not allowed to count that). I also knew that, very soon, most of my time would be dedicated to establishing my career, and I had no idea when I would have another unique opportunity, like this one, to travel. So, I told my family that I would be traveling to Japan–a country I’d never been to before, where I knew only one friend, and where I didn’t even know the language. (FYI: […]

My Thoughts On Manhood

My Thoughts On Manhood

August 11, 2014

This post is a part of an ongoing series entitled MIP (Man In Progress). After my 25th Birthday I decided to improve three aspects of my life, my physical well-being, my romantic relationships, and my writing career. My philosophy is that a writer’s work and his life are irrevocably intertwined and in order to improve one, we inevitably have to improve the other. … I’ve been thinking lately about manhood. I’m 28 and I’m still not sure what kind of man I’m supposed to be.There was a time when a man was supposed to aspire to be the breadwinner of a family. Before then, he was to aspire to be the sole protector of his race. A man was a beast, a killer, a hunter. He was carnivorous and mean. Today, a man is supposed to aspire to be a leader in his field, an innovator, a trailblazer. In a way, women’s liberation meant that not only did a woman’s identity not have to be […]

The Art of Allowing

The Art of Allowing

August 4, 2014

The art of allowing is a powerful concept. Allowing is not surrendering, although “surrendering” and “allowing” are profoundly connected: surrendering is admitting to yourself that you can’t do it on your own, and so you let life take care of it—but the art of allowing is the ability to say “yes” to the way life wishes to take care of it. So many of us surrender to life, but then we start looking around for the temporary, quick fix solution that only superficially fixes our problems for a short period of time. Life, instead, seeks the long-term solution to everything that troubles us, and often the fix to what truly, deeply ails you is far more complicated and far more involved than a one-step, quick-fix solution. Life knows better than we know what we need. Can we allow it to show us what it wants to show us? Can we allow things to unfold in the way life wants it to unfold? […]

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