Almost as difficult as starting something new, is following through on what you started.
I don’t how many times friends and family members have stared at me wide-eyed—as if I’m some kind of alien species—for following through on nearly all the goals I set out for myself. But it’s really not that hard to follow through on your goals, and I’m really not a “special” kind of person because I’m able to do that on a consistent basis.
Listen, I’m not a superhuman. I’ve got my shortcomings. I make mistakes. Believe it or not, there is a place that I know, it’s not pretty there and few have ever gone. If I show it to you now, will it make you run away? Or will you stay. Even it hurts, even if I try to push you out, will you return? And remind me who I really am? Please remind me who I really am.
Everybody’s got a dark side. Will you looooove meeee? Can you looooove miiiiiiine?
(Ahem. Sorry. Where was I? Oh yeah….)
Kelly Clarkson is the greatest….
(No, wait. That wasn’t it. I was here:)
What I’m trying to say is that the first secret to following through on nearly everything you do is:
1. YOU NEED TO REALIZE THAT THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS A SUPERHUMAN: ANYTHING ANOTHER HUMAN BEING CAN DO, YOU CAN DO IT, TOO.
You know all those people who have accomplished their goals? The ones that have lost all that weight, or have gotten that promotion, or have published that novel, or have married the love of their life? Yeah, they aren’t “special.” They aren’t part of some superhuman-alien-race of “goal accomplishing” mutants soldiers.
No. They’re just regular everyday folk like you, and they know that there’s no such thing as a superhuman: they can do anything any other human being can do. And when they see another human being accomplish great feats, they don’t see a “superhuman,” all they see is a regular human who has reached great heights by utilizing hard work, community support, strategic planning, patience, and determination.
People who follow-through on their goals on a consistent basis know that there is a winning formula that has to be followed, and they know that no successful person ever relies solely on their “DNA” to make them successful.
2. YOU NEED TO BE WILLING TO ASK FOR WHAT IT IS YOU NEED—AND ACCEPT WHATEVER ASSISTANCE YOU GET IN RESPONSE
The second secret to following through on nearly everything you do is that you have to be willing to ask for what you want—and accept whatever assistance you get in response.
The best way to explain this secret to you is to share with you a little story about how my recent eBook came into being:
First of all, when I first set out to write an eBook based on my blog, I didn’t know how I was going to get my eBook designed and formatted so that people could read it on their Kindles, but I knew that’s what I wanted.
One day, I was talking to my sister and I was telling her about how I was looking for someone to help design my eBook, at a reasonable price, and I wanted that person to get it done within a reasonable time frame. (Up until then, I had bad experiences with people who were not very punctual in their assistance and it was seriously delaying the eBook.) I told my sister that I had asked a few people to help but hadn’t had any luck.
Then, my sister recommended I reach out to a friend of hers who had designed eBooks before and could potentially do it for a reasonable price if I asked. I immediately took my sister’s advice and reached out to her friend.
To make the story short: my sister’s friend ended up accepting the offer to design my eBook. She did a really good job, and the result was pretty much exactly what I wanted. (I liked the experience so much that I am hiring her to do another eBook for me featuring some of my short stories.)
In the exact same way, I found a proofreader who could proofread my eBook for free, and I found someone else willing to format my eBook for Kindle for a reasonable price and within a reasonable time frame.
I am sharing this experience with you to illustrate the fact that if I hadn’t voiced what I wanted from the get-go, then there wouldn’t have been any opportunity to find people to help me.
I’ve noticed that so many people who don’t follow through on their goals are just not willing to ask for what it is they really need in order to accomplish those goals on time. Instead of asking for what they need, most people simple expect that the right resources will just turn up, and when that doesn’t happen, they blame life for not supporting them.
But how is life supposed to know what you need if you don’t ask it for what you need?
On the other hand, there are those people who will ask life for what they need, but when they don’t get EXACTLY what they asked for, they will turn the assistance down. In the end, they’re left drowning in a barrage of unaccomplished goals because they expected such goals to ONLY be accomplished with the “exact” resources and support they initially wanted.
Please do not make those common mistakes: if you want to follow through on you goals, you have to be willing to ask life for what you need and then accept whatever life gives you in response.
3. YOU NEED TO BE WILLING TO TAKE RISKS, BE VULNERABLE, AND STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE ON A CONSISTENT BASIS
The third and final secret to accomplishing your goals is understanding that you need to confront risk, discomfort, and vulnerability. This is probably the hardest secret to have to cope with because it goes against basic human nature.
In a choice between risk or no risk, most people always choose “no risk.” Even if the risk could potentially mean a big win for them. This is because people would rather be comfortable than uncomfortable, safe rather than unsafe. Those who continually go the “no risk” route, however, are often the losers of this world.
The winners will take a risk if they know it could benefit them. Winners know that even if the risk were to fail them, they will still grow and learn from the experience.
So choose to be a winner today: be willing to take risks, be willing to fail, be willing to learn how to be okay with discomfort and vulnerability and you will find great success in this life.
And what’s more: you’ll be able to follow-through on nearly everything you do.
Today’s Courage Exercise
Make a decision to follow-through on your goals for the new year. Then, implement the three secrets I shared with you in order to ensure your success
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