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How To Get Your Family To Support Your Passion

How To Get Your Family To Support Your Passion

August 18, 2014

Editor’s Note: the following post was originally published in 2011. New posts on the C2C will return on September 15, 2014. “Ollin, I love my family, but they just don’t seem to respect/understand/support my passion. Can you help?” “Ollin, I love my family, but they just don’t seem to respect/understand/support my writing schedule. Help, please!” After I graduated from college, I wanted to celebrate. So, I decided to go traveling. Now, I had never been outside of the country before (other than Mexico—but as a certified Chicano I’m not allowed to count that). I also knew that, very soon, most of my time would be dedicated to establishing my career, and I had no idea when I would have another unique opportunity, like this one, to travel. So, I told my family that I would be traveling to Japan–a country I’d never been to before, where I knew only one friend, and where I didn’t even know the language. (FYI: […]

5 Strategies For Dealing With Difficult People

5 Strategies For Dealing With Difficult People

July 22, 2013

“Hey Ollin, I have this person in my life who seems to be bent on making my life a living hell on regular basis. How do I deal with this situation?” Let’s face it: although writers spend most of the time alone with their work, outside forces can really be a block to our creativity. One of the most challenging negative forces in our lives could be a person who, for whatever reason, seems to be out to get us. Time and time again they rope us in with their drama, their negativity, or their erratic and unhealthy ways of dealing with their problems. Their behavior is hurting our ability to fulfill our purpose and follow our dreams. That is why sometimes its necessary to know how to deal with these difficult people in our lives. Here are five ways you can deal with that difficult person in your life who is getting in the way of you fulfilling your […]

Writers and Their Love Stories: Part II

Writers and Their Love Stories: Part II

July 8, 2013

This post is a part of an ongoing series entitled MIP (Man In Progress).After my 25th Birthday I decided to improve three aspects of my life, my physical well-being, my romantic relationships, and my writing career. My philosophy is that a writer’s work and his life are irrevocably intertwined and in order to improve one, we inevitably have to improve the other. … Read: Writers and Their Love Stories Part I. … “Look at all those people,” I said. I am standing next to my ex (whom I will refer to from now on as “Y”) and I’m pointing at the crowd below us. We are standing on the second floor of a department store, and we’re looking out of a wall made completely of glass. Through this wall of glass, we can see clearly below us at the large group of people making their way through the outdoor shopping center. I am pointing at all those strangers passing by: […]

Writers and Their Love Stories: Part I

Writers and Their Love Stories: Part I

May 20, 2013

This post is a part of an ongoing series entitled MIP (Man In Progress).After my 25th Birthday I decided to improve three aspects of my life, my physical well-being, my romantic relationships, and my writing career. My philosophy is that a writer’s work and his life are irrevocably intertwined and in order to improve one, we inevitably have to improve the other. … Every good tale is not complete without a good love story. My tale is no different. This is my love story: About five years ago I fell in love with someone, and he fell in love with me, and we broke up because of the distance. We kept in touch, but haven’t seen each other since then. This past year I realized I still felt the same way about him, even though so much time had passed. But I still had no idea how he felt about me. But then–what do you know?–a few months ago I […]

The Point of Love Without Understanding

The Point of Love Without Understanding

November 12, 2012

“You see, brothers and sisters, our hero, the fiery pilgrim, never saw the point of love without understanding.” – from the Broadway musical Passing Strange There isn’t one person on this planet who hasn’t been misunderstood at one point or another. I think that’s part of the point: we’re here on this earth to try to understand each other. This is the very essence of communication: going from a place of misunderstanding to a place of understanding. If I understood you completely as soon as we first met, then I would have no need to sit down and have a conversation with you. In fact, I would have no desire to get to know you because I would understand you so well already that you would not need to be present for me to understand you any further. I, for one, am happy that we often misunderstand one another: our misunderstandings give us an excuse to get a little closer […]

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